Aegrescit Medendo

I hear women (and occasionally men) say this "chivalry is dead" .. and I totally agree. However, unlike the women who usually say this, I'm really happy about that.


Chivalry is a remnant of a time when women were considered inferior, weak, possessions to be protected.. (this post is not an assertion that much has changed.)

Maybe it's nice to have somebody rush to open the door for you but the fact is that the thought-process that goes into this gesture is the same thought-process that goes into the "bad" gestures that men have historically made towards women (such as, not allowing them to vote.) If we, as women, don't want to be treated as inferior when it works to our disadvantage, we can't say it's acceptable when it happens to work in our advantage. If he can open your door for you because you're a woman, he can also deny you a job because you're a woman.

If somebody does something nice for me, I want it to be based on something other than the fact that I have a vagina. Whoever gets to the door first should open it first, and please stop pulling out my chair for me to sit down. Next time somebody does that to me, I'm going to call them to come wipe me the next time I'm in the bathroom.